End of Class

I REALLY loved this class it was so awsome and fun :))))!!!!!! I believe it is one of my favorite classes to have taken so far. The information learned while in here was so great and cool to me. I loved doing the various quizes that we took in doing these blogs. I feel like I learned a lot and can now better manage my relationships. Thank you for another great class you are such a great teacher and really found your calling in being a professer. You are the greatest ever just keep it up and soon your classes will be the ones everyone is wanting to take.

Esteem

I found this website to be way more helpful than the previous one. It goes more in depth and tells more about conflict in the everyday life, were the other talked more about conflict in the business world. I found the tips they gave about how to resolve, prevent, effective techniques to reduce conflict, and ways to resolve conflict very nice and hlepful.

Conflict

This was a very interesting article. I never thought about conflict in a bussiness aspect. I know that I avoid conflict and even accommodate in order to keep from arguing. I really like this paragraph from the article:
"The reasons we use different styles varies. We often avoid when we don't want to get involved or we decide it's not worth the effort to pursue. It's important to "pick your battles" since they can't all be fought and won. We compete when we strongly believe in our ideas. We accommodate when we want others to like us or we like things to run smoothly or we don't feel like we have the right to remind others of their responsibilities. We often compromise when we are in a hurry. We use collaboration when we want everyone involved to feel "ownership" for the outcome." That is so true and I really liked it because it breaks down why we do each one of the arguing tools.

Attachment Style

I kinda did not find the results surprising at all. I know that I am afraid of being alone and people leaving me. The majority of the time I even feel as if I just am not good enough for people, therefore I can never be with them. I know that when I get upset then yes I do throw the negative stuff out there easily because hey if the person hurt me why not show them they did and hurt them back. I know that is not right and I am trying to work on that fact.

Close relationships

The most important part of this article to me was were it was talking about how we tend to push people away that we actually want to be close to in an attmept to keep from getting hurt. While reading about this I realized that I do this so much. I will get really close to someone but then start to do little things to make them want to leave me. I believe I do this because i would rather them either just leave before I get to attached to them are because I want to see if they really care and will stay no matter what.

Self Disclosure

My score did not surprise me at all. I know that I don't self disclose to people unless they are my close friend, family, or significant other. I think that a person should be aware of how they disclose because it is a part of who they are and their personality. Self disclosure is a very deep thing that I don't think should be expressed with just any random person that comes along, it should be only done with the people closest to you.

Listening

Listening is NOT a passive activity!
Listen for unspoken fears, concerns, moods, and aspirations.
Good listening requires great wisdom.
Listen to others with respect and validation.
Listen without thinking about how you're going to respond.
Listen for tell-tale signs of impending trouble.
Listen with positive regard for people's strengths & abilities.


I belive that these are very good ideas and tips on how to become a better listner. To often in todays society people just pretend to listen and not truly listen to what a person has to say. I thikn that we need to learn to listen to what the speaker is truly saying because there could be some hidden truth or secret going on that they are trying to get out but just can't seem to. A good listner to me should whole heartly listen carefully to what is being said to them, then get their ideas together in order to fully help out.

I do not howerver think that good listening requires great wisdom. I do think it requires great concern and respect for the person that is talking to you.